Marriage – A Life Long Tie

Like every other one of God’s good gifts entrusted to the keeping of humanity, marriage has been perverted by sin; MB 100.00

Not long after the fall, the happy and sacred condition of the family was perverted.  God ordained that man should have only one wife, but the people before the flood gave up God’s appointed ways.  Consider this example:

And Lamech took unto him two wives: the name of the one was Adah, and the name of the other Zilah.  Genesis 4:19

In the beginning, God gave to Adam one wife, thus showing his order.  He never design that man should have a plurality of wives.  Lamech was the first who departed in this respect from God’s wise arrangement.  He had two wives, which created discord in his family.  The envy and jealous of both made Lamech unhappy. 3SG 99.

Lamech was not only a polygamist; he was also a murderer:

And Lamech said unto his wives, Adah and Zillah, Hear my voice; ye wives of Lamech, hearken unto my speech: for I have slain a man to my wounding, and a young man to my hurt.  If Cain shall be avenged sevenfold, truly Lamech seventy and seven-fold. Genesis 4:23,24.

To the crime of murder, in which Cain had led the way, Lamech, the fifth in descent, added polygamy, and, boastfully defiant he acknowledged God, only to draw from the avenging of Cain an assurance of his own safety.  PP 81.

Polygamy had been early introduced, contrary to the divine arrangement at the beginning.  The Lord gave to Adam one wife, showing his order in that respect. But after the fall, men chose to follow their own sinful desires; and as the result, crime and wretchedness rapidly increased.  Neither the marriage relation nor the rights of property were respected.  Whoever coveted the wives or the possessions of this neighbour, took them by force, and men exulted in their deeds of violence.  PP 91,92.

After the flood, the sins of the antediluvians were practised even among the people of God.  Abraham, not trusting in God and in His promise to make his descendants a great nation, took a second wife.

Thinking it impossible that a child should be given in her old age, Sarah suggested, as a plan by which the divine purpose might be fulfilled, that one of her handmaidens should be taken by Abraham as a secondary wife.  Polygamy had become so widespread that it had ceased to be regarded as a sin, but it was no less a violation of the law of God, and was fatal to the sacredness and peace of the family relation.  Abraham’s marriage with Hagar resulted in evil, not only to his own household, but to future generations.  PP 145.0

If God had sanctioned polygamy he would not have thus directed Abraham to send away Hagar and her son.  He would teach all a lesson in this, that the rights and happiness of the marriage relation are to be ever respected, and guarded, even at a great sacrifice. Sarah was the first and only true wife of Abraham. She was entitled to rights, as a wife and mother, which no other could have in the family. She reverenced her husband, calling him lord; but she was jealous lest his affections should be divided with Hagar. God did not rebuke Sarah for the course she pursued. Abraham was reproved by the angels for distrusting God’s power, which had led him to take Hagar as his wife, and to think that through her the promise would be fulfilled.  {3SG 104.2}

Later on, Jacob committed the same sin, getting into serious trouble:

Seven years of faithful service Jacob gave for Rachel, and the years that he served seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her. But the selfish and grasping Laban, desiring to retain so valuable a helper, practiced a cruel deception in substituting Leah for Rachel. The fact that Leah herself was a party to the cheat, caused Jacob to feel that he could not love her. His indignant rebuke to Laban was met with the offer of Rachel for another seven years’ service. But the father insisted that Leah should not be discarded, since this would bring disgrace upon the family. Jacob was thus placed in a most painful and trying position; he finally decided to retain Leah and marry Rachel. Rachel was ever the one best loved; but his preference for her excited envy and jealousy, and his life was embittered by the rivalry between the sister-wives.  {PP 189.2}

Polygamy was practiced also during the time of the kings of Israel.  David’s example remains as a solemn warning to future generations:

David afterward married Abigail. This was not according to the original plan of God; it was in direct opposition to his design, that a man should have more than one wife. David was already the husband of Ahinoam. The gospel condemns the practice of polygamy. The custom of the nations of David’s time had perverted his judgment and influenced his actions. Great men have erred greatly in following the practices of the world. The study of everyone should be to know what is the will of God and what saith the word of the Lord. The bitter result of this practice of marrying many wives was permitted to be sorely felt throughout all the life of David.   {ST, October 26, 1888 par. 15}

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Is Divorce God’s Perfect Will?

Matthew 19:3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made [them] at the beginning made them male and female,

19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Jesus said this was God’s perfect will.

Matthew 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

Can you see God made a statute through Moses? Why? Because of the hardness of their heart. It was not a statute for good but for the hardness of their heart.

God Has a Secondary Will

God has a perfect will but there is a secondary will. It is a will that comes to deal with the apprentice who thinks he’s smarter than his master. God’s perfect will was that there was no divorce. God’s secondary will was that they could divorce because of the hardness of their heart.

2 Samuel 12:7 And Nathan said to David, Thou [art] the man. Thus saith the LORD God of Israel, I anointed thee king over Israel, and I delivered thee out of the hand of Saul;

12:8 And I gave thee thy master’s house, and thy master’s wives into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if [that had been] too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things.

Here is a perfect illustration of God giving to the king of Israel plurality of wives. I have given you, into your bosom, your master’s wives. God has given? This is a puzzle to many people. The language is plain and simple. He gave to king David wives. Not only did he give him wives, but he gave to the Israelites a king which was not really his desire but he gave it to them.

continued…

http://sabbathsermons.com/2009/12/24/gods-perfect-and-permissive-will/

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